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Self Esteem – It begins with a Mindset


I just found this article from Warren Wojnowski on Overcoming Low Self Esteem


How to Overcome Low Self Esteem
Personal growth article by Warren Wojnowski

Low self esteem is prevalent in our society these days and it strikes me that so much of it is driven by a misplaced focus on what other people think.

Do you ever find yourself concerned about what others might be thinking about you? Are you concerned about their opinion of you? If so, why? What is it that has you so concerned?

And finally, is your concern about their opinion somehow rooted in the lack of a positive opinion you may hold of yourself?

Learn to deal with your failures

I had the opportunity to hear Bill Bartmann (the billionaire) speak recently. And he spoke about something I’ve rarely heard covered by the inspirational speaker/personal development guru crowd.

He spoke about failure.

Bill talked about the fact that everyone and their dog will espouse success principles to anyone who will listen. Regardless of how much success they may have achieved. And yet we know that everyone — everyone — has had to contend with failure in their lives. It’s just part of living.

We fall down the first time we try to ride a bicycle. We get cut from the team. We get rejected in a relationship. There are countless examples throughout our lives of failures. Some of them are little failures and some are larger failures.

Bill made this one very astute observation.

Successful people are people who have failed and then learned to deal with it. Specifically, they understand that success and failure are opposite sides of the same coin. You can’t have one without the other.

The only opinion that matters is your own

He went on to say that successful people have learned to accept their “failures” within the context of life and detach themselves from the labels and stigmas people as a society have attached to them. In particular, successful people detach from the opinion of others when it comes to their own self-worth.

The only opinion of themselves that matters to them is their own.

This is a very powerful observation. Because it is a key factor that distinguishes successful people from unsuccessful people. And it ties in beautifully with the importance of cultivating a positive self image … a positive opinion of yourself.

If you fall into the trap of focusing on what you perceive to be your failures and the labels that are associated with them, you will be predisposed to caring deeply about others’ opinions of you. Because you carry low self worth, you will seek validation through the opinions of others. And of course, the opinion of others is always ill informed.

They don’t really know you. They don’t understand what thoughts and feelings you are experiencing. So they are in no position to offer an opinion — but of course that won’t stop most people from sharing one with you.

Then, because you become so concerned about how others will perceive you and what they might say, you find yourself making decisions within the context of what you think they might think. Which of course means it’s all made up anyway! You let the imagined opinions of others dictate the decisions you make in your life.

So stop right there … and get this clearly. The only opinion of you that matters is your own.


Operate with confidence

Learn to operate from a position of confidence in your own abilities and intuition. You are the only person who truly knows you.

So what is the opinion you have of yourself? Make your decisions based on your own opinion. And this is easy to do if you have taken care to choose good thoughts about yourself.

Remember where you are going. Remember your goals. Remember you are the leader of you, just like every other successful person on the planet. Because in doing so, you will have a positive opinion about yourself and your ability to make good decisions.

In turn, this will make it so much easier for you to begin to trust yourself and make decisions that move you closer to where you are going. (Do you notice a recurring theme here?) This is a foundational principle of success, so become very clear about it. Pretty soon your low self esteem will become a distant memory because you’ve discovered the truth … the only opinion of you that matters is your own.

Start adopting daily practices that support you self image and raise your self esteem.

Warren and his wife Michelle operate their own full-time business from home utilizing their knowledge and experience from the corporate world and 17 years in the health industry to teach and coach people through personal development and the Law of Attraction. You can find out more about their work and get their Free 7 Steps to Happiness program at: http://www.inspiredabundance.com/

I agree with Warren and believe that the thing that keeps people from being focused, organized and motivated when starting a new venture, is a low self esteem.

It is a mindset that puts them in a form of “victim” mode and steers their efforts in too many directions or worse yet, the wrong direction. The self-sabotage-syndrome is often the result and they quit before they arrive.

Develop a strong self-esteem and your results and successes will start to multiply many-fold.

Define your goal, develop an “I Can” attitude, educate yourself, get organized, surround yourself with success oriented people, find a mentor and take action.

And most important… remember that you are ultimately responsible for your own future.
Believe in yourself… U-R-A-WIN-R!

Here’s to your Wealth!

Cheers, Smiles and Success,
Crazy J

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Don’t give up before you get started!

I just got done watching a video from fellow Internet
Marketer T.C. Bradley, called “The 9 Mile miracle run”
Now I’m not sending this to promote his site or product but
the message he shares this past Easter weekend.
You can see his video here:
The 9 Mile miracle run
Listen closely to his message.

Now please bare with me. I will be writing about my
experience in the Stand-up Comedy niche, but the message
pertains to anything you do, including Internet Marketing.

After a recent wonderful weekend in Berlin and watching
one of our “Comedians Anonymous” team members; Christian
Schiffer, perform for the first time in “Quatsch ComedyClub“,
(Germany’s largest and oldest Comedy club) and taking in the
Audrey Hepburn Expo and enjoying the first real spring
weather, I realized I had a lot to be thankful for.

I used this inner reflection to assess where I was headed
and what I was doing to achieve my goals.
I guess I would call it a reality check.

The speed in which my friend Christian has been conquering
the comedy scene amazed me and asked myself why my career
hadn’t exploded like his.

Naturally it was easy to start listing all the advantages he
had, a good manager, supportive parents and friends, etc.,
and my disadvantages which I won’t even start to list,
because I thought of too many.

It was in this process that I realized that I had as many or
even more advantages than he did, I had just forgotten or
neglected them.

I put on our next show 3 days after returning from Berlin
and decided it was time to get my butt in gear and focus on
those advantages and get back to the basics.

Most of my lack of success came from what T.C. described in
his video about his run. Those pains after the first mile or so
that tell us we should give up or that it is to hard or not worth it.

I recognized that I had too often let those feelings get the upper
hand. I gave in and quit too soon. I believed my own pity parties.
I always found and excuse or scapegoat to blame for my lack
of success or progress.

This had to stop!

Christian inspired me because he went past the initial painful mile.
He learned, stumbled, got up and with a remarkable determination
worked very hard on progressing in his material development and
stage performances. He found that “runners second wind”.

And now he was being recognized and invited to appear on TV.
His own weekly show is consistently full and he is hosting top
notch performers and giving his audience what they love;
“Great Comedy Content”

He motivated me so I took action.

I re-studied my old notes. I wrote new material. I rehearsed.
I believed I could perform and give the audience a great show.

The results: I ended up headlining the next show I was in and
rocked the house (doing Comedy in German which is not my
native language) and harvested the largest applause of my

I have now been invited to appear in one of the nations top
comedy shows and have several other invites from
English-speaking venues in neighboring countries in the
coming months… and this has always been my dream… to be
on stage and make people laugh.

My second dream was to share my knowledge and experience to
assist others who chose this path and help them avoid the
pitfalls of this career. I created the “Comedians Anonymous
comedy course.

Our course has enabled 6 newbies to start performing and appear
in the world famous “Cologne Comedy Festival” their first year on
stage and one of them even has their own TV show now.

So what does mean to you as an Internet Marketer?

Let me just recap here for you with the following 12 Steps:

1. Be thankful for what you have and count those blessings.
Developing a grateful attitude helps you cultivate the mindset for
future rewards and growth.

2. Know what your goal or reason is and stay focused on it…
Even when the pains, fears and doubts of that first mile hit you.
Realize that you might stumble along the way, just get up and keep going.

3. Believe in your miracle. You can achieve your goal if you believe in it.
Many successes are often reached long after the majority of people would have given up

4. Avoid getting stuck in your own “pity parties” when things get tough.
Don’t focus on your past failures, look at them as stepping stones and concentrate on your past successes.

6. Observe your Mentors and do what they do.
(even if they are younger than you)
You will learn from their experience, both their success and failures. This can save you valuable time.

7. Be accountable to someone (your mentor is a good start)
Being accountable keeps you on track, it helps you get real feedback as to your progress.

8. Continue to learn about your niche, new things happen every day.
Too many people stop learning after they leave school. Acquiring knowledge in the areas you want to achieve something worthwhile is an essential part of your success.

9. Organize yourself and then take action.
Nothing feels better than getting something started and finishing it. “Doing something everyday is the secret to success online. Make it a priority”

10. Take responsibility for your success.
Don’t use others or situations as your excuse. You alone are responsible for your success.

11. Share your knowledge with others and help them succeed.
True knowledge begins when you teach others to achieve your
level of success and beyond

12. Look to your past to learn from it, but don’t live in it.
Too many people get stuck in their past, either focusing on their past failures or successes without make any progress in the present. Learn from your past but live in the now and plan for your future.

I hope these insights and suggestions help you on your path, whatever it may be. Take these steps, learn them and apply them and you will see the results for yourself

Cheers, Smiles and Success,
Crazy J
a.k.a. Johnny Hollywood
Comedian turned Internet Marketer.

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